What We Discuss with Kristen Carney:
- Understand why someone who seems to have it all on the outside might really be dying on the inside.
- Deal with the aftermath when someone close takes their own life — even when part of you empathizes with their reasons.
- Be your own champion: reach out to your family and friends who support you through the highs and lows before you’re at your wit’s end.
- How the Internet has exacerbated suicidal tendencies since the ’90s.
- Why comparing our blooper reel to the highlight reel of others will always lead to our downfall.
- And much more…
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Kristen Carney may not be a household name (yet!), but she’s lent a hand to lift at least a few people you may recognize: she’s written and co-hosted for Adam Carolla and Dr. Drew Pinsky as well as acted in sketches on Comedy Central and Funny or Die.
Kristen co-hosts the Ask Women podcast with our friend Marni Kinrys (who you may remember from a Feedback Friday not long ago), and co-hosted the Mentally Ch(ill) podcast with Stevie Ryan until Stevie tragically took her own life last year. In this episode, we cover everything from travesty to tragedy. Listen, learn, and enjoy!
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More About This Show
Looking at the statistics, it’s easy to see that depression really is a silent killer. Less easy to see is when people close to us are stricken with it — even when we, ourselves, know its influence all too well.
“I’ve been in both shoes,” says Kristen Carney, host of Mentally Ch(ill) and Ask Women, “I’ve been the person looking at someone going, ‘Why are you depressed? How in a million years could you feel this way?’ and then on the other side of things where I felt suicidal and I felt hopeless.
“And it’s weird. There’s almost a door that closes in your brain and opens and shows you darkness and light, darkness and light, and when that door’s closed, you absolutely cannot see through it to the other side. And by that I mean, when Stevie took her own life, I really wasn’t in a very dark state of mind. I wasn’t struggling with my depression. I was on anti-depressants. I had been on them for a while and had gotten pretty stable. And I just didn’t get it. It was like trying to get me to figure out how to do a complex math equation. I can barely even do multiplication. So I just couldn’t understand it.
“And then all of a sudden, when my brain chemistry drops, I go so low that I get every ounce of why she would take her own life and I have to fight the feeling of doing it on my own. But once that door closes and I go back to the light side, I cannot see in a million years how someone could do that. So it’s really weird, because I’m seeing both sides of it. I’m feeling that despair, and then once that despair’s gone, I’m not even able to explain it. It’s a really interesting phenomenon in your brain.
“It’s almost like when you get really drunk and then, once you wake up in the morning, you have that feeling of ‘Oh, my God. What did I do last night?’ It’s that feeling when you suddenly start to feel better, it’s almost like you were drunk. You’re in that state of mind that wasn’t actually natural — or yours — and you’re trying to reconcile how you could even get to that place.”
Listen to this episode to learn how to cope with your own depression, understand why depression is such an untreated symptom in today’s society, why the Internet may contribute to suicidal tendencies, what we learn from others who have gone too far, and much more.
THANKS, KRISTEN CARNEY!
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Resources from This Episode:
- Kristen Carney’s Website
- Mentally Ch(ill)
- Ask Women
- Kristen Carney at Facebook
- Kristen Carney at Instagram
- Kristen Carney at Twitter
- Things You Didn’t Know about Stevie Ryan by Cailyn Cox, The List
- TJHS 96: Jane McGonigal | Gaming Your Way to Health and Happiness
- Study Links Depression to Low Blood Levels of Acetyl-L-Carnitine by Bruce Goldman, Stanford Medicine
- Sisyphus by Mark Cartwright, Ancient History Encyclopedia
- Still Alice
- Reddit: The Front Page of the Internet
- The Mental Illness Happy Hour
- Psychology Today Therapist Finder