Benjamin Hardy (@BenjaminPHardy) has been the number one writer on Medium since 2015, is nearing the completion of his PhD in organizational psychology, and is the author of Willpower Doesn’t Work: Discover the Hidden Keys to Success.
“If you have to use willpower, it’s because you actually haven’t made a choice yet.” -Benjamin Hardy
What We Discuss with Benjamin Hardy:
- Your personality doesn’t shape your behavior; your behavior shapes your personality.
- If you can’t create and control your environment, your environment creates and controls you.
- What automaticity is and how it frees you up to be mindful of what matters.
- The four sources of willpower and why willpower doesn’t work.
- Your identity is not fixed: how changing your behavior changes how you evaluate yourself — and who you are.
- And much more…
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Western culture downplays the role of environment in identity — who a person is in one situation is different from who they are in a different situation. Either your environment is pulling you forward or pushing against you, and if your environment is pushing against you, you might try to employ the use of willpower to push back. Sadly, this is more likely to result in disheartening failure than effective change.
Willpower Doesn’t Work: Discover the Hidden Keys to Success author Benjamin Hardy joins us for this episode to explain why willpower is ineffective, why having control over your environment is imperative for control over your own personal development, and what you can do to gain this control. Listen, learn, and enjoy!
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More About This Show
According to Willpower Doesn’t Work: Discover the Hidden Keys to Success author Benjamin Hardy, our personality doesn’t shape our behavior; our behavior shapes our personality. But what shapes our behavior? Our environment.
The problem is, a lot of us are content enough existing in the overall environment where we find ourselves, trying to force positive changes through the use of sheer willpower within these environments. We might make a resolution to go to the gym every day, for instance, and actually start to go for a week or two. Then, over time, we lose our resolve and slip back into the habits that got us out of shape in the first place. Why? Because, as Benjamin tells us, willpower doesn’t work. Only by taking control of our environment can we take control of our personal development.
Mindfulness as Context
Mindfulness, as espoused by Harvard psychology professor Ellen J. Langer in her 1989 book on the topic (before it became a watered down buzzword), is having an awareness of context around us and how that context influences us. She said that who a person is is a product of their context.
“But then the question becomes: who creates the context?” wonders Benjamin. “Once a person realizes that they can control their environment or they can shape the context, then they actually can have the power or the ability to change.”
Benjamin relays an experiment done by Langer as described in her 2009 book, Counterclockwise: Mindful Health and the Power of Possibility that drives home just how powerful this context can be.
In 1979, she took a group of eight men in their seventies from a nursing home and transplanted them into an isolated environment that mimicked the world of 1959 — complete with magazines, music, television shows, and movies — but no mirrors. The men were instructed to converse and behave as if it were actually 1959 and they were 20 years younger.
After a week, Langer reported that the men showed improvement in “physical strength, manual dexterity, gait, posture, perception, memory, cognition, taste sensitivity, hearing, and vision.” Some of those who entered with the assistance of canes left no longer requiring them.
“From a psychological perspective, almost all of your behavior is shaped by your environment,” says Benjamin. “What we say is it’s outsourced by the environment.”
The Four Sources of Willpower
If we don’t shape enriched environments that outsource the type of behavior we want, we end up having to remain conscious about what we’re doing — we mistakenly use willpower to try and force ourselves to behave in a certain way, and this is exhausting.
Contrast this with automaticity — when we practice something so much that it becomes second nature and operates almost effortlessly from our subconscious.
“Willpower can’t happen on the subconscious level,” says Benjamin. “By nature, willpower is conscious control.”
He says willpower comes from four sources:
- You haven’t made a choice yet. As Michael Jordan said, “Once I made a decision, I never thought about it again.” He took willpower out of the equation entirely.
- You don’t have enough motivation. Your why (as we discussed at length recently with Simon Sinek) is not strong enough.
- Investment. Not having a point of no return because a commitment of some form — whether in money or time or some other resource — hasn’t been made.
- Environment. “Everything around you has to be in alignment with your decision,” says Benjamin. “If there’s a conflict between what you’re trying to do and the situation around you, then you’re going to have to use willpower.”
Listen to this episode in its entirety to learn more about the point of safe return, escalation of commitment, forcing functions, using the concept of sunk cost to leave us with no option other than action, how Benjamin and his wife have used this willpower research to raise three foster children from difficult backgrounds, and lots more.
THANKS, BENJAMIN HARDY!
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Resources from This Episode:
- Willpower Doesn’t Work: Discover the Hidden Keys to Success by Benjamin Hardy
- Benjamin Hardy’s website
- Benjamin at Medium
- Benjamin Hardy at Facebook
- Benjamin Hardy at Twitter
- Mindfulness by Ellen J. Langer
- Counterclockwise: Mindful Health and the Power of Possibility by Ellen J. Langer
- A Radical Experiment Tried to Make Old People Young Again — and the Results Were Astonishing by Lauren F. Friedman, Business Insider
- Commit 100 Percent to Something and These 5 Outcomes Will Happen by Benjamin Hardy, HuffPost
- TJHS 6: Simon Sinek | What’s Your “Why” and Where Do You Find It?
- The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less by Barry Schwartz
- The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brené Brown
- Poke the Box: When Was the Last Time You Did Something for the First Time? by Seth Godin
- Jon Morrow’s Smart Blogger
- So Good They Can’t Ignore You: Why Skills Trump Passion in the Quest for Work You Love by Cal Newport
- The Equality of Opportunity Project
- Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD), Mayo Clinic
- The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
- Can You Control Your Environment and Trigger Your Most Desired Behavior? by Marshall Goldsmith
- Man’s Search for Meaning
by Viktor E. Frankl
- The Power of the Pygmalion Effect by Ulrich Boser, Center for American Progress
- The Fundamental Attribution Error: It’s the Situation, Not the Person by Dan Heath, Fast Company
- Self-Signaling: How Our Actions Can Change Who We Are by Charles Chu, Medium
- Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
by Carol S. Dweck
- Facts: The Blobfish by Deep Marine Scenes
- The Prison of Your Mind by Sean Stephenson, TEDxIronwoodStatePrison
- The Founder
- The Laws of Lifetime Growth: Always Make Your Future Bigger Than Your Past by Dan Sullivan and Catherine Nomura
- Ego Is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday
- Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
- The Importance of Detaching From Work by Steve M Jex Ph.D., Psychology Today
- Superstratum by John Burke
- The Millionaire Next Door: The Surprising Secrets of America’s Wealthy by Thomas J. Stanley and William D. Danko
- Dan Martell’s Blog
- Earth Breaker by John Burke
- Shaun White