Todd Herman (@todd_herman) is an entrepreneur, coach, mentor, and author of The Alter Ego Effect: The Power of Secret Identities to Transform Your Life.
What We Discuss with Todd Herman:
- How you can harness the power of your own secret identity — and why you would ever want to.
- What it takes to adopt seemingly out-of-character characteristics and dominate your personal and professional life.
- Why taking on an alter ego isn’t a “fake it ’til you make it” scheme, but channeling little-used facets of yourself you may not even realize exist.
- The hidden enemy forces that oppose your attempts at accomplishment and how to resist their subtle and not-so-subtle influences.
- How to honestly understand and come to terms with what truly motivates you — and deal with what keeps you from following these motivations.
- And much more…
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To us mere mortals, world-class athletes and other high performers sometimes seem like superheroes. They exhibit skills, focus, and drive beyond what most of us can even fathom, yet surprisingly come across as everyday people when encountered in “real” life. The most aggressive NFL player is a nurturing dad and friendly neighbor. The ear-biting, skull-cracking cage-fighter is a goofy video game nut. How — and why — do they transform from one identity to another, and is there a lesson to be learned here that we can harness for ourselves?
In this episode we talk to Todd Herman, coach to many of these high-performing athletes and author of The Alter Ego Effect: The Power of Secret Identities to Transform Your Life. He’ll explain the power of these secret identities, what we can do to break type and — like working out muscles we hardly ever use — channel out-of-character facets of ourselves we may never have realized existed. Listen, learn, and enjoy!
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“Fake it ’til you make it” is a mantra many have adopted in an effort to step over the comfort zone border and make changes to their lives — even when every fiber of their being rallies against this effort. It’s admirable at its core because it means these people are willing to chase achievements beyond whatever fears have been holding them back, but it also rings with an air of inauthenticity.
So how does Todd Herman, author of The Alter Ego Effect: The Power of Secret Identities to Transform Your Life explain the difference between this suspect platitude and the idea that we should learn to channel our alter ego as a way to expand our boundaries?
“‘Fake it ’til you make it’ is a terrible message; that’s why there’s so much resistance against it — no one wants to fake it,” says Todd. “The definition of being inauthentic is trying to deceive or trick people. An alter ego has nothing to do with that. An alter ego comes from Cicero, who coined it in 44 BC. In its root form, it means ‘the other eye’ or ‘trusted friend.’
“And that’s a really useful idea for people to keep in mind. Because when you think of how many people operate in their own heads, it’s sometimes a merry-go-round effect of constant self-bullying, telling yourself you can’t do it, what an idiot you are, judging yourself, ‘Why didn’t I think of that?’ All that kind of stuff.
“An alter ego steps in in those areas where you’re really trying to perform and bring your best self out there and acts as that trusted friend. So all of a sudden, in your own head, it’s really healthy to understand that there’s this duality that we all exist inside of.
“There’s up, down; there’s inside, out; hot, cold; same thing in our head. There’s that Carl Jung shadow — if there’s a shadow, there has to be a light. So the alter ego we bring in and we use as a mechanism for our creative imagination as a force to push that shadow self — what I call the enemy in my book — to the sidelines and allow that more heroic self to get out there.”
Listen to this episode in its entirety to learn more about your greatest superpower and how to leverage it with your alter ego; why you’re too nuanced as a human being for the phrase “just be yourself” to mean anything; why your alter ego isn’t a false construct, but an amplification of your own existing (perhaps dormant) assets; the difference between being childish and being childlike (and why you may not have tapped into your alter ego since some adult told you years ago that it was time to “grow up”); and much more.
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Resources from This Episode:
- The Alter Ego Effect: The Power of Secret Identities to Transform Your Life by Todd Herman
- Todd Herman’s Website
- Todd Herman at Facebook
- Todd Herman at Instagram
- Todd Herman at YouTube
- Todd Herman at Twitter
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