Spies use psychology to recruit traitors and build deep connections. Here, former spy Julian Fisher reveals the authentic art of strategic influence.
What We Discuss with Julian Fisher:
- Authenticity is paradoxical in espionage. Spies must be genuine people to build real trust, yet they also lie about their identity. This contradiction requires exceptional self-awareness and emotional intelligence.
- Quality relationships beat quantity networking. Meaningful connections with targeted individuals who can help achieve specific goals are far more valuable than collecting hundreds of superficial contacts.
- Personality profiling reveals deeper insights. Understanding someone’s background, struggles, and journey tells you more about who they really are than just their job title or surface-level information.
- Preparation and homework create connection. Researching someone’s interests and referencing them naturally (like Julian’s football gambit in Zimbabwe) can instantly shift dangerous situations into opportunities.
- Walk to important meetings for mental clarity. A 20-minute walk before crucial conversations clears mental baggage, stimulates creativity, and helps you arrive fully present and focused.
- And much more…
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You’re sitting across from someone at a café, building what feels like a genuine friendship over months of conversations about family, dreams, and shared interests. Then one day, they lean in and whisper, “By the way, I work for a foreign intelligence service, and I need you to steal state secrets that could get you executed if you’re caught.” It’s the ultimate relationship paradox — how do you build authentic trust while living a fundamental lie? This isn’t just the stuff of spy novels; it’s the daily reality of intelligence officers worldwide who must master the delicate art of being genuinely fake. The contradiction seems impossible: to succeed at deception, you must first become exceptionally good at being real.
On this episode, we’re joined by Think Like a Spy: Master the Art of Influence and Build Life-Changing Alliances author Julian Fisher, a former British intelligence officer who spent years navigating this psychological minefield across Africa and beyond. Julian reveals that the Hollywood image of suave, charismatic spies is mostly nonsense — the real skill lies in authentic human connection, even when your entire identity is fabricated. From talking his way out of a Zimbabwe elevator filled with machete-wielding militants (using nothing but football knowledge) to helping rescue a trafficked woman in Tokyo’s red-light district, Julian demonstrates how genuine empathy and cultural awareness become life-saving tools. He breaks down the spy’s toolkit: personality profiling that goes beyond job titles to understand someone’s true journey, the art of “offensive cover” that makes you interesting rather than invisible, and why walking to important meetings creates the mental clarity needed for high-stakes human chess. Whether you’re navigating corporate politics, building professional relationships, or simply trying to connect more deeply with others, Julian’s insights reveal that the most powerful influence comes not from manipulation, but from mastering the authentic art of understanding what makes people tick. Listen, learn, and enjoy!
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1164: Julian Fisher | How to Think Like a Spy
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Jordan Harbinger: [00:00:00] Welcome to the show. I'm Jordan [00:01:00] Harbinger. On The Jordan Harbinger Show, we decode the stories, secrets, and skills of the world's most fascinating people and turn their wisdom into practical advice that you can use to impact your own life and those around you. Our mission is to help you become a better informed, more critical thinker through long form conversations with a variety of amazing folks.
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Now, today, I said we have a spy and we do. Julian Fisher former, well, allegedly a former spy. He's not allowed to say, I don't really know how that works because like [00:02:00] when you're a Brit and you, you're a spy, you're not allowed to ever say that you were, but then you can write a book about it. I don't know.
Anyway, we explore how spies are trained and made, what skills they need to develop sources and connect deeply with others to get them to betray their country. We also discuss how to think on your feet, and Julian has a bunch of great real life stories about mistakes that he's made, lucky breaks that led to lifesaving lessons in a whole lot more.
So if you like our undercover and spy stuff, you're gonna dig this one. It's also a bit more practical in the networking and relationship development stuff as well. So I think you'll enjoy it even if you're just looking at this stuff for business or personal use. Now, here we go with Julian Fisher.
Well, thanks for coming in, man. I appreciate that.
Julian Fisher: Not at all. My pleasure. Great to be here. Jordan, coming in means something different when you're a spy, I guess, I don't know, from the cold into this lovely, warm embrace. That's right. The Jordan Ho and just podcast. That's right.
Jordan Harbinger: Gimme a, A brief overview. A very brief overview of your career.
You know, where did you start and how does one become a spy, so to speak. [00:03:00]
Julian Fisher: I was fortunate enough to get talk to university, which is always a great start, and that gave me a springboard to go into the city financial sector in a venerable institution. That was a springboard to work on Japanese stocks and chairs in a subsequent job, which gave me yen for travel.
So I applied for government service overseas, and that was like my entry into the world of broadly int intelligence, security, and diplomacy. And I was lucky to be posted in a number of places in Africa with that overseas agency. And from there I went to work for a gentleman called Tim Spicer. Who had set up a private security company, which had a private intelligence arm.
They did a lot of work in Iraq, post the invasion of Iraq, providing security reconstruction teams there, and was asked head. I did that for four or five years, and then I went to set up my own company called Africa Integrity, which specialized in Africa intelligence to support [00:04:00] ethical engagement. I see.
So it's many years of experience in private and public sector,
Jordan Harbinger: and you can't say which agency that you worked for. Is that allowed or not? Not
Julian Fisher: specifically now.
Jordan Harbinger: Got it. Okay.
Julian Fisher: Really, as far as I'm, I should go. To say that I worked in foreign affairs for a British agency.
Jordan Harbinger: Wow, okay. They try and leave that nice and vague.
They do indeed. I suppose that makes sense because spies, they're sort of meant to be secret, aren't they? Yeah. That's kind of the idea is it's meant to be a secret and you have to convince other people depending on what line of work you're, and you have to convince other people to betray their country, and the consequences for that are pretty high.
I mean, I'm thinking about Robert Hansen who went and betrayed the United States and gave away all these counterintelligence secrets. I assume somebody like that who's high placed in the FBI counterintelligence and was responsible for looking for moles and turned out to be a mole, were probably still recovering from that.
Mm,
Julian Fisher: absolutely. I believe Hanson died recently in prison.
Jordan Harbinger: Yeah.
Julian Fisher: He gave up the rest of his life in the cause of becoming a traitor.
Jordan Harbinger: Yeah,
Julian Fisher: and that's the extraordinary thing, because [00:05:00] that's what spies do. They travel abroad and persuade people to portray their countries at the risk of imprisonment, if not torture, and potentially in certain countries execution.
And so we see with the likes of Hansen that he gave up his freedom. We see with the likes of Burgess, Ian McLean, that they gave up their reputations in some cases, their freedom, their ability to remain in the country, but people do it. When I talk about spies, I really mean intelligence officers. The person going to recruit those individuals to become traitors, if you like, and they do it for those spies because the latter are trained in a set of skills.
All of these skills are well within the realms of what we understand. Everybody has access to these skills. Everybody can develop these skills. Everybody can train themselves and everybody can perfect them to do broadly what spies do, which is persuade other people to do what they want. And of course, in the case of the spies, an extraordinary achievement and it's an amazing thing to be doing.
But there's nothing to stop a civilian, anybody, anywhere in the world from using that same set of [00:06:00] skills to good and effective ethical lens. The whole difference is spies do it with intent and they do it with purpose. And if you can learn to take those sets of skills and turn them. Intent and with purpose to particular goals, you'll make a big difference in the progress of your life personally and professionally.
Jordan Harbinger: So do agencies that recruit people to become spys or foreign intelligence officers, whatever, do they recruit people who already have these skills or do they recruit people that they just think they can train these skills?
Julian Fisher: That's the billion dollar question. It's, uh, inevitably the case that some people will have them more innate and will have developed them more consciously, perhaps over the course of their life.
But actually those kinds of characters are quite rare. So I think as in so many cases, what the edges are looking for is potential and it's recognition. Not so much that somebody knows how to target, use cover, use cultivation, use techniques of influence, but somebody has the hunger and the personal capability [00:07:00] to learn all of that.
That's the major difference. 'cause we know there are some people who perhaps are a little bit more closed-minded about things and about their own capabilities. And the services are looking for those people who are open-minded and ready to experiment,
Jordan Harbinger: ready to take risk. I've met a lot of intelligence officers from various agencies, various countries.
Many of them are very unimpressive people. In many ways, if you're listening to this, you're watching this, I'm not talking about you, but I meet these people who work for French Foreign Intelligence or, or they're retired, you know? 'cause otherwise I wouldn't know German, us, uk and I just think this guy, but it's like if you really have to turn it on all the time in order for me to think you're not someone who has their head stuck in their butt.
That's not a good sign because if you don't know me and you're thinking, I don't need to be nice to this person, I don't need to worry about this person, I don't need to connect with this person. You don't really know that. And then if you turn it on later, it seems so stinking disingenuous. So I would be more drawn to the person who is friendly, outgoing, [00:08:00] connects everyone, even if they don't think that I can help them with anything.
Julian Fisher: Bingo. I couldn't agree more with you about that. And I've had people say to me that I look like a librarian or I look like an accountant. I think that's probably rude to librarians and accountants in all honesty. And one might say, well, okay, job done. It's meant to be a secret. Sure. But that's a cheap answer.
And the reality is there is a breed of officer trained intelligence officers who can be a bit disingenuous and do.
Now, whether or not you would notice the switch on is a different question, but it sounds to me if somebody's, if you've met somebody who's fully retired from the profession, then they're not likely to have to manage that segue much more.
Jordan Harbinger: The reason that I kind of brought this up, I, I've spent a bunch of, unfortunately, too much time in Hollywood, right?
And when you meet an actor like George Clooney, for example, yeah, he's so charming all the time. David Duchovny really cool guy. Pretty cool guy all the time because if you can act like a [00:09:00] really charming, cool guy that everyone loves, why on earth would you turn that off? You'd leave it on almost all the time.
So if you job is to connect a network with people and get them to like you, why are you an ignorant stick in the mud until you're on the clock? That part doesn't make sense to me. I don't turn my personality on and off depending on whether or not these cameras are rolling. I'm pretty much the same guy all the time.
So if I have to become myself in front of other people for this show, my wife told me this. She goes, I always wondered if you're gonna be like the same. And I used to hear this all the time. Oh wow. You're like the same person that I hear on the podcast. There's really no difference. That is a much more powerful, in my opinion, impression of someone than somebody who goes, I need something from him.
Now it's time for me to smile and act gregarious and connect and see what I can do for them. It just, that to me immediately turns me off when I see people do that and I can't be the only one who feels that way.
Julian Fisher: I get what you're saying because the most important thing, which you project very clearly is authenticity.
The Jordan I'm sitting talking to here is the Jordan I was talking to 10 minutes ago outside the studio. [00:10:00] That's fairly clear and I.
Their whole job is about pretending to be people. They're not. They're actually as authentic off the screen as they're on the screen and vice versa. I find that very interesting. It's the same point you're making. They're playing themselves. They're the point, right?
Jordan Harbinger: It might just not be the serial killer version that they're playing in.
I think that's right.
Julian Fisher: Yeah. The difference maybe with intelligence officers is this, that you mentioned spending a lot of time in Hollywood and there's a Hollywood view. There's a Hollywood image of what is the intelligence officer like, right? It's the bonds and it's the bonds, and I think that's really ingrained in people's psyche.
It's not necessarily the case that a spy has to switch on and become charismatic to engage with you. I like to think about very different, what I call spy styles. A few of the spy styles that I would point to instance are one end the and that is the classic spy. The person that you can look at and you say, yeah, I would follow that person.
They're clearly a leader. Perhaps more [00:11:00] sort of special forces than civilian intelligence may be the bombs and the bonds, but there's also the validator at the other end of the spectrum, and the validator can be quite introverted. They can be quite shy, they can be quite non flamboyant. They fade into the foreground, but when they engage, they engage very meaningfully and they connect very strongly with the people that they need to engage with.
Now, I completely agree with you that if there are cases where that's being done purely for professional reasons. It leaves me feeling as uncomfortable as it leaves you feeling uncomfortable. Yeah. And I think the best buys bring something of a real genuine connection when they're building those relationships.
Jordan Harbinger: It seems like that's the only way that this is really gonna work. 'cause yeah, if I'm gonna convince you to betray your country and if you get caught that your whole family gets executed, but if you do it right, you get a blue passport and you get to live in New York, the stakes are pretty high. So am I gonna trust the person who seems to only have a rudimentary understanding of world affairs that they got from watching TV news in America?
Or am I gonna trust the person [00:12:00] that feels like they're actually my friend and not just being paid to act like my friend for three hours a day?
Julian Fisher: I agree with you is that we are all capable of reading people pretty acutely, and we do it all the time. Our. We all know when somebody's being inauthentic, we just know it.
Jordan Harbinger: Unless you have some sort of disability where you can't pick up on these things, you are doing this automatically.
Julian Fisher: Absolutely. Even if you can't say why, you know that person who's in the party looking over the shoulder for the next most interesting person to go on and talk to you, just you want to avoid them.
Yeah. And they may be flamboyant, they may be charismatic, they may be larger than life, but you just don't feel right about them. So of course there has to be a personal connection because if you're gonna take that risk right to the basis of this is trust, you've gotta trust that person that they're gonna protect your identity, they're gonna protect their dealings with you.
They're gonna look after you if something goes wrong. To the extent that they can, you have to trust that they are giving something back to you. And that's not just material considerations. Financial [00:13:00] considerations undoubtedly, but actually part of what is given back quite often in those relationships is emotional connection.
And that has to be genuine. I don't think anybody really can do it without being genuine. This is the paradox of the center of espionage. You have to be an authentic person to do it well. And if you're not, you'll soon caught out. But also lie about who you are. Yes, it's a huge paradox, isn't it? You know, you can imagine that moment of umasking when you say, well, okay, you know, you, you've been talking to me, but I've got something to tell you.
Actually, I work for the CIA, or I work for the Mossad, or I work for the IRGC, or whatever it is. And, and by the way, having just admitted that I've been lying to you for the past three years, I'm now going to ask you to risk your life, predict the biggest risk of your life.
Jordan Harbinger: Yeah.
Julian Fisher: By giving me secret intelligence.
How about it? It's a tough sell. It's a tough sell, isn't it? So unless you've got a genuine, authentic connection already, I think is an impossible self. I've always described it as being about three things, having self-awareness, others awareness, and situational awareness. And if you can't combine those three things [00:14:00] effectively, you won't ever be a good py
Jordan Harbinger: that actually shed some light on things.
What's this place with all the pythons that you wrap around your neck? Ah, in
Julian Fisher: Wida it's in, it's in Benin. Oh, okay. It's in West Africa, south coast of, uh, Benin. And it's the center of voodoo, which people often mistake as hoodoo, which is, I don't even know what oo is. That's, that's a real thing. Hudu iss the inverted black magic Okay.
Concept. Whereas Voodoo is a, a, a, a legitimate religion followed by a lot of people in, in that part of West Africa. Oh, I didn't realize that. And they worship the Python. Uh, one of the consequences of worshiping the Python is you're not allowed to harm it. You're not, you're not allowed to go against its wishes.
Uh, and they have a temple there in Wieder, which I visited on a, a project some time ago. Uh, and I foolishly decided to go to the temple and allow them to put one of the many, many pythons [00:15:00] that live there around my neck. Without realizing that they were it to strike or to do whatever pythons do, which is harmful, nobody would intervene.
Jordan Harbinger: Right. They're not gonna help
Julian Fisher: you. They, they would not help me. Absolutely. It's God's will, ly or whatever. Absolutely. PIs will. Oof. Uh, but fortunately, um, we simply along, okay, me and the snake, you know, I patted alligators or crocodiles rather in Gambia. So, um, there's something about traveling to West Africa, which obviously makes me take leave of my senses mm-hmm.
And decide that it's okay to pet very dangerous animals. Yeah. It
Jordan Harbinger: must be the jet lag. I, I don't know, man, that seems crazy to me because they put the python around your neck and you go, oh, so how do you defang these things and deve do, and then, then they, they don't. Right. The answer is they won't touch
Julian Fisher: them.
No, I mean, it, it's the, the, the veneration of the python in that part of the wild is so great that each residential property has a python hole. The go. So it's a doggy
Jordan Harbinger: door for snakes.
Julian Fisher: Absolutely. No, thank you. They can slither in night at anytime day or [00:16:00] night. And, and you're not meant to evacuate them should they come into your living area, and so you could just wake up with a python next to you?
Absolutely. I think, I think in fact, adherence of voodoo would consider that. Very good luck. Consider that a good sign.
Jordan Harbinger: At what point doesn't it become bad luck when one kills a member of your family? I mean, that's, that's
Julian Fisher: not good luck. I I, I'm not gonna question their, their beliefs, but it, it, it's, um, not something I think I could subscribe to.
I have to say, I would, I, I, luckily, I was staying in a hotel and no python. Not on the ground floor, no python hole. Oh man.
Jordan Harbinger: I've read the book as you may be able to tell from some of the questions I'm asking you, but I read the book and I like that you're very detailed because a lot of this stuff tends to be like 10,000 foot or 30,000 foot overview of something like develop rapport.
It's like, okay, yeah, how'd you do that? Dot, dot, dot. You know, colon, what? What do I do now? And there's, there's plans in there that you can, you know, here's how I would do a dosier, that's not the word you use, but like a file on somebody. So when I meet them, I have a plan that's really useful and I [00:17:00] do that when I'm talking to you right now, it's probably very similar to what you would use or have in your head when you're meeting a contact.
It might not be a PDF, but it might be similar.
Julian Fisher: Really interesting seeing you just said that, Jordan, that. You'd be surprised how many interviews I've had with people who clearly haven't read the book. It's actually
Jordan Harbinger: the norm and people always go, oh gosh, you're so talented. Interview. No, I just literally do the most basic level of homework on the guest, and it's already cleared the bar in the 99th percentile.
Julian Fisher: And here we are connecting and we're all able to talk about things, which in many other encounters I'd still be stuck in the weeds of. So what happened when you were 12 years old? The point I'm making is that we are already able to connect to a very different level of mm-hmm. Of discussion about the world and about people.
Because at the end of the day, this is what it's all about, interpersonal connectivity, because you've done your homework. Yeah. And that's actually essentially all I'm saying. Don't go around breaking GDPR or equivalent, um, privacy laws and what have you. And you know, obviously be very careful about how you keep data on people.
But I mean, essentially what I'm talking about is a hypersonic version of just making a note of when somebody's [00:18:00] birthday is. And being aware of what they're interested in and making an effort when something of interest to them comes along. In other words, that's right. Just not being a self-obsessed ass.
A-hole. Yeah, exactly. There we go. There there's a cultural difference.
Jordan Harbinger: Put people's birthdays in your calendar. Set the alarm for one or two days before so you're not wishing 'em happy birthday only on the day because that's what everyone else is doing. And then you'd put a little list of things you know about them in that calendar entry.
Like, Hey man, you still playing pickleball? Happy birthday. It's on Thursday, isn't it? That is such a huge, absolutely. Have you used that to keep in touch with hundreds of maybe even a thousand plus people over the course of the year and just
Julian Fisher: remember, what was that kid's name? What's, what's her husband's name?
Jordan Harbinger: So that aside, tell me you had a nurse from Iran when you had an accident as a kid. Can we talk about that? Of course. It seems like you learned, learned quite a bit from her about alliances, which I think might have informed your work later in life.
Julian Fisher: Most definitely. I think Maya was probably the person who made the most significant difference to my life.
I ended up meeting her because when I was 11, my older sister took her [00:19:00] own life and this cast me into a, a very severe period of emotional turmoil. I won't seek to put a label on it and I don't think, uh, anybody would ask me to. I think it's fairly clear that an 11-year-old losing his sister to suicide is gonna be quite traumatized by it.
Sure. But a year later, in the midst of my trauma, I didn't used to be able to face going to school because I was being bullied about that event the year before. And one morning I got the bright idea of being able to avoid going to school by walking in front of a moving car. Now I can't say that I was intending to kill myself, but I was certainly intending to get outta gonna school.
I think probably now call it a cry for help. As a result, I ended up in hospital in a fairly serious state, which required quite a number of medical surgical. And, um, had the good fortune to meet some incredible staff. Our NHS staff are almost universally fantastic, I have to say. But I met one in particular mayor who was not very much old than I was.
She can't be more than 18 or 19, and [00:20:00] she had fled with her mother as recently as 1979. Now we're talking about 1982. When I was in hospital in 1979, there was an Islamic Revolution in Iran, and a number of people were arrested as counter-revolutionaries, and her father was one of those. He was a medical doctor.
She never saw him again, as far as I'm aware, has no idea what became of him. She fled with her mom, ended up in Birmingham, which is roughly in the middle of the UK where I'd been born and brought up and sought to become a nurse because she wanted to honor her father's memory. She failed her exams the first time around because she didn't speak English, didn't speak English, essentially.
That'll do it. It's an impediment. Mm-hmm. And then had the bright, I mean, I think fabulous idea of asking one of her teachers to get in contact with universities where they offered Farsi. Mm-hmm. And through that she met a, a young student called Dan Israeli by background as it happens. And Dan and she would meet every day over the course of a summer, and they would have two hours of conversation, one hour in English, one [00:21:00] hour in Farsi, so that they would improve each other's grasp of the language.
Jordan Harbinger: Dan works for the Mossad now, probably, so now he's fluent in Farsi. Yeah.
Julian Fisher: Yeah. By the end of that period, she was able to take her exams, exam, didn't do as well as she should done, and then Dan's father stepped in. Dan's was, he was involved in Birmingham. He said, look, if you continue working with my son, help him through university, I will pay for you to go back to school and to retake over the course of a year.
Because at that point, she was essentially terrified that she was gonna have to follow her fa her mother's footsteps and become a cleaner. Nothing wrong with being a cleaner, but she wanted badly to honor her father's memory. And so Dan's father was as good as his word. And a year later she retook her exams, passed them, and then got a place as a, a student nurse to become a state enrolled nurse.
And I met her, I think in the first year of that program. And she said to me one day, could I understand means? Little one, do you one? She said, [00:22:00] allies are the most important thing in life. And always remember that. And I always have. I mean, it just made such a profound difference to the way I thought about the, of course, I believe in the importance of education.
I.
But if you don't have allies on your side, it doesn't really matter how accomplished you are intellectually, how accomplished you are academically, you won't be able to make those breakthroughs. You won't be able to do the things that are just that little bit beyond, it's about social capital. Yeah, that's the phrase I took to heart what she said, and I made a point of building relationships with people who would be helpful, supportive, and in a position to do that.
But all the while without seeking to do that in any exploitative way, manipulative way.
Jordan Harbinger: What is personality profiling and why is this important? You have this context, Silas, and I think it's a really good example of personality profiling, cultural awareness and things like that. And I think that's an important skill to build.
Julian Fisher: It is, I mean, I would say all I mean by personality profiling is getting to know somebody [00:23:00] actually stopping to. We so often go through our lives and we come across somebody and we'll happily label them. I met Jordan the other day. He's a podcaster and broadcaster, a celebrity personality. Let's go with that.
Sure. I met, might lay it on thick. I met Jules the other day. He's a, an author, former spy, maybe. I met a doctor. Doesn't really tell us anything, does it? What I mean by profiling is actually where does that person come from? Is it a doctor who was brought up in a family of doctors going back generations who didn't have to fight to get there?
Or were they born in northern Nigeria and had to fight even to get to a western country where they could get the education and the training to become a doctor? So starting at that cultural level, really it's just understanding where does somebody come from. It also extends to contextual situational awareness.
Where does somebody come from? Because where they come from tells you a lot about who they are because you have to be a certain type of personality, a certain type of character to get from A to B.
Jordan Harbinger: That's a really good point. There's definitely a difference between somebody whose [00:24:00] parents were both doctors.
Not that they didn't have to work hard to get there, but whose parents are both doctors and they born and raised in Los Angeles and then went to medical school and came back and worked in their practice there. There's definitely a difference between that person and the person who went from Russia came to the United States as a teenager, got into medical school and their parents were both auto workers like mine or something like that.
There is a difference in personality based on the background of those people.
Julian Fisher: I think there is, and there's a difference in the way in which we would wish to engage with them, I say, mm-hmm. Now let me be absolutely clear. I am not belittling anybody in this. I'm not saying that If you are fortunate enough to be born with privilege, you know, I don't blame anybody.
Yeah. Lean into it, man. Exactly. We're all just jealous. I, I would, with the exception of those people who take that privilege and squander it. Sure. I have no objection. I think that's a wonderful thing that we can pass on. Knowledge we can pass on. Well, so we can pass on contacts and social capital from generation to generation because we rise by lifting others.
I genuinely believe that
Jordan Harbinger: something I say in
Julian Fisher: every show, I, I assume that, that I didn't know that, and I'm not actually [00:25:00] joking. I was like, that's pretty good, man. Where'd you pick that up? I, it must have been said to me by somebody who's already been on one of your shows. But that's, it's a conclusion of every single show.
It shows that we have in sync in our views. Man,
Jordan Harbinger: this is, it is quite fascinating. You mentioned organizational awareness and how spies pick their targets. You discuss organizational awareness, you, you think about it and find contacts who say no an industry well or are well connected because they're rich or they're famous, or something like that.
And I feel like this has been a background process of mine and it can go wrong, right? If you're in Hollywood and you're just a social climber and you're trying to get around famous people, it's really transparent. But if you can make friends with people that maybe have deep connections in the fitness industry, wellness industry, and you're just friends with them and you rarely talk about fitness, but then when you go, I need to contact this person.
They just have the Rolodex for days, and I feel like I've sort of naturally come by that for much of my life and I'm that person for podcasting and digital media for those people.
Julian Fisher: I think there's a difference [00:26:00] between targeting and networking. I think lots of people.
And we know people who are adept to building their rolodeck, but there are two types of rolodeck. There's a rol deck was a, A bunch of cards that mean absolutely nothing because if you picked up the phone, the chance are that person, they'll remember you. Yeah. You were ships that passed in the night. And endless targeting and targeting is focusing on relationships because that relationship is meaningful.
Not necessarily just for your professional advancement, not necessarily just for your personal reasons, but it's advantageous in the widest possible terms. Sometimes that can be strictly personal. Sometimes that can be professional, sometimes it can be for everybody. Sometimes it might be charitable. It might be philanthropic, but you get my point.
Mm-hmm. There's a reason to develop that relationship rather than that networking idea that, oh, I've met somebody who's a sound engineer, I might need them one day I'll put their number into my phone, forget about it till five years later. Call 'em five years later. And they're like, well, who are you? Yeah.
And anyway, I've moved on and I'm now
Jordan Harbinger: Right.
Julian Fisher: You know, I'm now [00:27:00] glassblower, so what are you talking about? You know what I mean? Yeah. It's like that's the difference. Meaningful connection building. I use the phrase. If you want to talk about that in the professional context, I talk about goals, allies, you set your goals, you understand where you're going.
You make an assessment of the types of people that may be able to help you get there. It may become goals, allies on that journey. And then you target that type of person. And you can be doing that in a preparatory way. And spies do this all the time, by the way. Sometimes they might be thinking about targeting for problems, which are way over the horizon.
They're constantly looking ahead, thinking, well, where's the next geopolitical problem gonna come from? Or you might be doing it for an immediate requirement. And the same goes for personal or professional targeting. The difference between that and networking is, again, it's not just going to a conference and picking up as many cards as you can.
It's why am I here? What am I trying to achieve? Who would be best placed to come with me on that journey in a, in a collaborative alliance? And then seek to and engage with them [00:28:00] as an individual rather than just a name or a functional job.
Jordan Harbinger: So it's more depth, quality over quantity, which surprised no one who's listened to the show before.
It seems like we talk about that along the show. It's common in your profession. And yet people will literally go and meet as many people as they can and collect the business cards. Never get a follow up email from them. Yep. Maybe you hear from them three years later or they follow up, but it's like, there's no action here.
There's no reason for us to really stay connected that I can think of other than you're casually maybe going to ask me for something
Julian Fisher: in a few weeks. That's right. That's really transparent, isn't it? The, the, the, uh, especially if somebody contacts you and they haven't seen you in three years. Like, Hey, remember me, we were met today, you know, in San Jose, and why are you calling me?
You want something, don't you? And it's immediate. We've, again, remember what we said a short while ago. We instinctively know these things. We don't necessarily react harshly as a result, but instinctively. Whereas if you're spending time building up quality relationships, that shouldn't be an issue.
Jordan Harbinger: Yeah.
Julian Fisher: There's a parallel here. Uh, and this is a passion of mine. I'm sure we would come to it anyway, but I'm gonna jump the [00:29:00] gun Sure. Bit. Which is about networking online for me, there's targeting, then there's networking in person, and then there's building up thousands and thousands of friends online. Okay, fine.
If you're an influencer and that's your job, and you, you are, to reach a wide audience like you as wide an. For the vast majority of us, it makes very little difference. If you have 10 friends on social media or you have 10,000, it really makes very little difference. Apart from manageability, this striving for likes, for connections and all the rest of it, I think that's probably going to do an awful lot of harm to young people and the young people who aren't trying to reach with this book, by the way.
What I really wanna say to 'em is get out there, meet people, build meaningful relationships,
Jordan Harbinger: because a lot of people measure the quality of their social circle in the amount of people that they have or followers or whatever, because it shows a visible, tangible metric of popularity. I think people mistake popularity for real connection, and that is a huge mistake, especially in the professional sphere.
A lot of people might [00:30:00] know who you are and that means you're popular, but that doesn't mean that they're connected with you or that they feel necessarily some affinity for you. It's just that they know who you are. It can actually be bad depending on the industry that you're in. I, I would imagine.
Julian Fisher: I think that's probably right.
And there's, um, a distinction to be made between using it as a means or tools as an end in it. A tool as an end in itself. You know, if your end in, in itself is to have 20,000 followers and numerous likes, every time you put something out on whatever social media it is, that's pointless. Now, of course, if you've developed something, a capability, a genuine capability, a genuine talent, you genuinely have something that is consumed, whether that's talent, podcast
followers. So that you have as wide an audience as possible, that's an entirely different thing. It's not targeting, that's a different thing. That's building your customer base. That's
Jordan Harbinger: right. That's totally different. You mentioned in the book you ask who has access to the information that we want and how do we structure an approach?
They're likely to be receptive to. The great example of this is you [00:31:00] volunteering for this campaign. Tell me about that, because you ended up finagling a spot in the House of Commons. Yeah. And you're sorting essentially these boring papers. Mm-hmm. But then you're gaining access and you're gaining experience with these sort of blue blood upper class folks.
Julian Fisher: Yeah. Well, I mean there was a particular end point here was that I wanted to have Winston Churchill as my referee on when I was coming outta university and trying to find my first job. Back in those days, very long time ago, paper curriculum viti sent out by post with a stamp on it, covering national, all the rest of it.
And a very important part of that was to have two people prepared to give you references or testimonials. Sure. Okay. And um, I was quite active in the conservative party of my youth and I'd volunteered to work in the 1989 European elections, which was great fun actually going at campaigning. It was just, it was enormously good fun.
And I was working with a fantastic candidate who went on to sit in the House of Lords, and I've got a great of time for him. But in the process, I thought, well, rather than just doing this for its own sake, what am I trying to [00:32:00] achieve? So I thought the next step needs to be to work in the House of Commons.
And there's a carra of research staff in the House of Commons. So every time during this campaign, somebody from the senior leadership from the Conservative party, which was then in government, came along to campaign with us. I would make a point of getting to know them, making sure, almost obsequiously, carrying their bags around with them, trying to build a relationship, and at the end of each day say to them, do you know of anybody who needs a research assistant?
Nine times out of 10, the answer came back, no. But on one occasion it came back. Yes. And I ended up working in the House of Commons as a research assistant to an mp no longer sitting. But that wasn't enough for me. I wanted to have a really big name. I sat down with a list of serving mps and the first one that jumped off the page of me was Winston Church.
And I thought, I've gotta have Winston Churchill as a reference. Mm-hmm. Now, just to be absolutely clear to everybody listening out there, who's confused? It's Winston Churchill, the grandson that I was working for, rather, that old, I'm not that old. I look old. I'm not that old. And so I [00:33:00] set him out, cultivating him.
I made a point of finding out what were his areas of parliamentary interest, when did he contribute to debates? What did he say? What angle is he coming from? What are his interests in foreign affairs? And there was a Reuters feed outside his office. So I would sort of linger by the Reuters feed, wait till he came by, and then make a comment about something that I knew that he'd be interested in.
So I was thinking about him, he said, it sounds manipulative, but in actual fact I was thinking about his interests. I was giving him a reason to engage.
Jordan Harbinger: Alright, maybe I need one of those good luck pythons. But alas, all I have is an anaconda. We'll be right back. This episode is sponsored in part by Dell and Nvidia.
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SOB. I'm thinking, oh, this person took the time to set this up so they could get my attention and it worked.
Julian Fisher: Yeah, absolutely. And that's what I was doing. Some people do think it's manipulative. I clearly don't. Whether it was or not, the end result was I was able to say to him, do you need a research assistant?
He said, I don't, but I do. A speech writer. I became a speech writer at Winston Churchill. [00:37:00]
Jordan Harbinger: That was a gutsy move for him to just be like, actually, you must have been so fresh faced. And he's like, I, I want you to write the things that I say in public. The funny postscript
Julian Fisher: to that is the, there's one speech which he gave where it was so poorly written, and I admit that now I look back on it, it was, gosh, it was ill-informed
Jordan Harbinger: politicians, that's what they do is they say things that are, gosh and Ill-informed.
I think you were probably right on target, man. You're just ahead of your time.
Julian Fisher: Yeah, I, I read the room. Yeah. Yeah. Just the, for the respondent to it. His phrase was, if I recall correctly, I dunno who writes the Honorable Gentleman's speeches, but I suggest he finds a new assistant. Winston sent me a copy of it kindly by post.
Nice. He was amused about it, as was I, and he went on actually to gimme a really lovely reference and helped me to get my first job at an organization of stockbrokers, which I wouldn't have expected to get into back in those days. It was very much dominated by fee paying school,
Jordan Harbinger: upper crust, super educated people who have, I don't know, played polo on weekends or something.
Julian Fisher: Absolutely. [00:38:00] Everybody called Kas Nov, the blue blooded stockbrokers. How did you fit in? I didn't. I was fortunate that I worked with some consummately charming people. Sure. And they all embraced me, and they respected the fact that I was a reasonable economist. So in that context, I wouldn't put myself up as an academic economist, but say respect to my professional ability.
And over time we got to know one another, but there was always what I call a glass partition. And so we talk about, we know about the glass ceiling. Sure. I could have probably gone all the way up to partnership in that firm if I'd stayed there. But there would always have been that glass partition between me and the other people.
They, they had a different way of speaking. They did different things. They went to different places. They knew each other. They went to each other's country or states. I was never going to be part of that.
Jordan Harbinger: It's one of those things where people say, oh yeah, veil, the snow was terrible this year. And I go, I would not know.
That's right. Because my parents took me to a lake that you can't put boats on. And they told me I should go ice fishing and I didn't catch anything. Also, you know, it was just like Exactly.
Julian Fisher: I have a, a, it [00:39:00] is similar, an equivalent story to that, that I took a message from one of my colleagues while they're out at lunch one day and, um, it was somebody calling to organize a, a skiing trip and they said, could you just leave a message at, I'll meet this person at Valdi Air, and I'd never heard of EZ French.
It's a scheme resort. Okay.
Jordan Harbinger: I think we have a bad connection. Can you spell that? Oh, of course. Valdis Air. No. Naturally. Naturally.
Julian Fisher: Yeah. I wasn't, I wasn't quite that sharp back in those days. I didn't dare I had if, if they were spelled it for me, I spelled it phonetically. How did that go? 'cause so, so I wrote a V.
This is pre Google, D-I-Z-A-I. Exactly. I then went out and came back a bit later and there was a group of people around the desk all laughing at the way that I'd spelled Valair. I looked back on it. I, it's excruciating. Yeah. Oh man. But that hurts. It taught me something, which is, was just a little bit of humility, which is important too, and just sometimes just ask, if I just said to my boss, who is a, an absolutely fabulous guy, if I just said to him, I don't really know what this is.
He'd have just told me and he wouldn't have judged me. But took of John, my boss said in the end of that story [00:40:00] really is that I said to him, you know, I don't really belong here. This is a totally different social class and so on. Well, and asked, did you employ me? And he said, well, I had to employ you really, because I wanted to phone the House of Commons and ask to speak to Winston Churchill.
Jordan Harbinger: One thing I I love about the book is you talk about how to tailor outreach, how to use social media like Facebook or LinkedIn and use the, you may also know connections and things like that. Yeah, I do get a lot of pitches like you don't know me, but 17 paragraph letter. The ask is somewhere in the middle, maybe at the bottom.
Now I have an AI thing that reads it and summarizes it. Idea. It comes with superhuman, which is my email client. But I don't wanna have to look at that. I usually just, no. Don't read it if it's too long. I can't spend 20 minutes reading your email when it's your life story followed by, and so can I come on your show or something like that?
It's not gonna work. You tailor the outreach and you talk about what to do instead. But one of the best rules of thumb is respecting boundaries and don't stalk. I don't have this problem yet, thankfully, but the rule of thumb is, would this [00:41:00] person be happy that I know this about them? That is a really good heuristic because I think there's quite a few people that will try and say something about me in an email that's personal and it's very clear that they asked a lot of people.
Yeah, it's a little invasive and it doesn't make any sense when what they could have done is said something like, I know you're interested in travel in North Korea, and I heard on your show that you went to Paris and you liked it, and you think French food is great. I mean, something along those lines is fine.
There's a really fine line between, Hey man, you did your homework and get off my porch.
Julian Fisher: Yeah, totally. Well, don't think anything replaces instinct on that front, actually. We've just got Instinctively no, when you're overstepping that boundary, right, it would be like if somebody sent you an email, for instance, with the title, we Rise by Lifting others.
I would say that's right on the margin. Of course, they know, as you've just explained, it's a catchphrase of yours. It might catch your eye, but it could also just be seen as a little bit too on the edge. I would, personally, I wouldn't do it. I would say, my instinct would tell me that you [00:42:00] wouldn't react particularly well to that.
Jordan Harbinger: Somebody went to a coffee shop and the wall said, we rise by lifting others. It was just a phrase that was on the wall of this coffee shop in the middle sent me a picture of it. They sent me a picture of it and they said, this reminded me of you. And then they said, I'd love your show. And by the way, I thought this guy would be really interesting.
Yes, I'm his publicist, but that's not why I am. Right. You know, doing. And I, I
Julian Fisher: read the pitch. I like that because it's actually saying, okay, here's a third party thing that's going on mm-hmm. That I'm connecting to. So if I just play something back at you by just quoting you in your own, your own words in a, an email, it's not bad, but it's not great.
But that thing of saying, okay, I saw this and thought of you. Yeah, okay. That's doing two things, isn't it? That's saying, I thought of you. That's quite important because we all like people to be thinking about us. Doesn't matter who we are, let's put our hands up. And it's also saying, I know enough about you and I'm sufficiently interested in you.
Not only to think of you, but to think of you in connection with something. Whether that's a phrase or a way. Exactly.
Jordan Harbinger: If you know that they're a little bit cheeky like me. There was some sign I saw in a bathroom that said something a little bit [00:43:00] vulgar and I took a photo of it and I sent it to somebody and I said, this reminded me of you.
And they called me 'cause they were laughing so hard. It had to do with the length of someone's member and standing close enough to the urinal not to make a mess, basically. And I was like, I don't know why, but this reminded me of you. And I wanna say we've all
Julian Fisher: been there,
Jordan Harbinger: son of a, you know, it's one of those, and you can play with that a little bit.
But yeah. Would they be happy, basically, are they gonna be smile when they see this or are they gonna close the window blinds because they're a little bit unnerved by the fact that you know this?
Julian Fisher: I would say to people, use your instinct. And if your instinct is telling you no, just don't do it. Don't take the risk.
Nothing is
Jordan Harbinger: creepier than finding out somebody's done a little bit too much homework on you. Yeah. And I didn't care as much until I had kids. Now I'm like, okay, now you're not invading my privacy. It's my kids and my wife's privacy. And that's not okay.
Julian Fisher: No, I, I know exactly what you mean. And with people able to find out so much about anyone who has anything of a public profile.
With through ai. Ai. Yeah. The worst I think, is when you get something that's clearly been AI generated and they've got AI to [00:44:00] look at something. And so I've had emails and I'm fairly liberal with my email address and perhaps I shouldn't be, but I've had emails come to me where you can see it's the same font as was delivered by a particular AI machine.
And, and, uh, and they haven't bothered to change the font from the first sentence that says, you, I've read your book and I really loved it. I have one particular one. Just I very quickly tell this story 'cause it, I think it illustrates a hell of a lot. I've read your book, thought it was fantastic. I'm a book promoter and I think we could do really great work together.
And here's what I do. Ai chunk of text. Yeah. Copy, paste and then copy paste. Spacing
Jordan Harbinger: is different. Absolutely. And
Julian Fisher: then signed off and I wrote back and I said. It feels to me like you probably just copied and pasted from AI there, but I'm gonna give you another shot. So would you mind telling me what it is particularly about my book that you liked?
Yeah, no response. They came back and said, could you send me a link to it? Oh gosh. So they had lied about reading the book. Yeah. I mean, that clearly is the very far end of the spectrum.
Jordan Harbinger: This
Julian Fisher: is a
Jordan Harbinger: good point. This is a good point. We're not just whining here people because a bad [00:45:00] pitch, if it's not successful, let's say I get a pitch where somebody goes.
This guy would be super interesting, and I go, actually, he's been on the show before. And they go, oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. I sent this from my phone. I should have searched your website. Here's another person I think would be interesting. I searched your website. You haven't had them on yet. Fine. You get another chance.
Yeah. Should you have searched my site? Yes, but it's not the end of the world. However, the person who writes with ai, I loved your latest episode with Andrew Callahan who did this AI summary of episode. Yeah. Paragraph about me. Paragraph about what I want. So I now have read this whole thing and then I go, I've already had this guy in the frequent website.
This email must have taken them 20 minutes to write, oh wait, no, AI did it. And they sent this a hundred times. So then I just block their entire email. I'm never going to hear from them again. So it's actually better to have a slight little mistake that took me a few seconds to read and correct than a long thing that looks like you put effort into it, but was completely fake.
Something about getting bamboozled just really pisses me off and I can't be the only person who feels that way.
Julian Fisher: No, I get it. And I want to echo what you said there. This isn't whining. The reason I think we're both telling these [00:46:00] stories is, is to help people because of course, you know, it's, it's tricky.
Let's be honest about this. It's hard. Selling us off is hard and none of us is comfortable doing it. We hate writing those emails with some rare exceptions. We certainly don't wanna make cold phone calls to do it all the rest of it. This is hard to do. So if you're gonna do it, don't waste your time by doing it in a ham fist away.
Yeah. Is what I would say in the chapter, in the book where I talk about this, I call the perfect pitch, because ultimately Aspire is pitching somebody as well. They're effectively just saying, I need something from you and I'm going to give you a reason why you might want to give that to me. Because that's all it's about.
You've got the targeting, you've got the use of cover, you've got cultivation, you've got use of elicitation, assessment of the motivations, and then mm-hmm. Only then do you think about a pitch, obviously. It's different when we're talking about somebody wanting to help me with publicize my book or somebody coming on your podcast, but the same principles apply.
Don't fall the first hurdle by sending something you haven't properly researched or haven't properly thought through. If in doubt, just put yourself in [00:47:00] that other person's shoes for a bit. Yeah. If you got that email, how would you feel? Because I'll tell you an awful lot.
Jordan Harbinger: Yeah. I think the truth is people think they're getting away with it with the AI thing, and they're not.
They're really not. Any sort of template that you think looks good from ai realize that, that AI is telling every person pitching my show to use that exact same template, and it's really obvious and it's a way to set you into my immediate do not read box because I'm getting 30 of those per day. And people are going, I don't care.
I'm not booking up for a podcast. If you're trying to find a job, you're doing, probably doing the same thing. You're sending an email to somebody in an industry and they're going, I had another one of these stupid AI things from a guy who graduated from a college program and thinks you're gonna write this to me.
They're seeing so much of this. I wanna switch gears. You have a really interesting anecdote about being a, in the elevator in Zimbabwe. It's not quite related to what we're discussing, but I I love the story. It,
Julian Fisher: it sort of, it sort of comes back to targeting really. Mm-hmm. And a bit of sinking on your feet.
But the biggest lesson about this is, is what you can pull out the bag when you're panicking really. So, the brief background there, I had many years [00:48:00] of engagement in dealings with Zimbabwe, which is a beautiful country full of amazing people. It's tragedy thats leadership has let.
One particular time I went there, 2008, was after a really seriously unpleasant election period during which a lot of people had lost their lives. The opposition candidate Morgan pulled out because he felt that the threat to his supporters was too great. And then McGee had gone on to win by 99% or so. Oh yeah.
It's bel very unbelievable margin. We know the playable, it was a febrile atmosphere. And one thing that, um, the then President Mugabe had done was whip up very anti British sentiment. He blamed Britain for everything. As the former colonialists, we were responsible for his disastrous economic policies. We were responsible for hyperinflation, we were responsible for.
And I traveled there soon after the election to go and see a friend of mine who happened to be a very senior figure in McGee's [00:49:00] party, had been to university near where I was born. And we'd really struck it off and I'd gone in to see him actually just relationship maintenance. I wasn't after anything.
He was on the top floor of the PF building, which is based, and I'm not joking, it's based on a street called Rotten Row, the zno PF headquarters. I dunno whether they were aware of the irony of that when they selected that address. Yeah. But I was coming outta the meeting, which had gone very well. We got on very well.
Had a cup of coffee and ETS and cake. As I recall, I got into a lift and I'm slightly claustrophobic. Talk about being the sorts of things that you wouldn't expect somebody with this sort of background to have. You know, a bit of claustrophobic is not necessarily what you might expect from somebody who seeks work in the intelligence field, but I'd force myself to get into lift because the lights are out in, in the stairwell and it would probably been quite dangerous to go down it.
And then came down one floor, doors opened again, and this group of people got into to the first two, were sort of wearing suits, looking fairly respectable. And [00:50:00] then a group after them of God knows how many, 15, maybe people dressed in sort of ragged clothes, but carrying panas, which are those long, curved blades.
It's like a machete kind of thing. It's like a machete basically. In an office building. In an office building. I might get out of the elevator at that point. Well, I was sort of penned at the back. I thought I'd just hold my breath literally. 'cause they all stak of local beer, which they, they'd obviously stoked up and they were on their way to campaign.
Shall we put it in Ver? Mm-hmm. And often that meant going to an opposition rally and beating a few people up, or worse, hence the panas. So it was uncomfortable, but I thought I should probably have got out. Yeah, maybe. I mean, I'm here. Yeah. I'm committed to the bit. All right. Start going down again. And then suddenly big jolt.
And the lift stops between two floors. And I'm began saying, okay, I'm claustrophobic. I'm surrounded by people with Panas. I'm British. They hate the Brits. This isn't stacking up terribly well. And then the lights went out. So I had a mobile phone, fairly [00:51:00] rudimentary one, but it did have a torch. So I got reached into my pocket.
'cause I was just, by this point, I just needed some light. I needed to see what was going on and illuminated the situation with the torch, which of course just drew attention to me. So suddenly I've got all these people with their panas stinking of local brew saying, you know, who are you? You are a British, you are a spy.
What are you doing here? You know, we, we, we don't welcome you here. What are you, a colonialist? All of this stuff. It was threatening to get quite nasty. But I noticed that of the two gentlemen who got in first leading this group, first of all, they were wearing suits. So that told me something. They're probably senior.
And number two, I noticed on the lapel of one of them, he was wearing a a little enamel badge. And it just said, United. Now, I dunno how much your audience will know about football. Some people will Soccer in the uk, our Premier league soccer is, or was dominated by a team called Manchester United back then.
I see. Back then it had a roll call of some incredible players. As I understand it now, I know nothing about [00:52:00] soccer. Oh, okay. We're on the same page then. But I did know that if I saw somebody wearing an enamel badge that said United chances were, it meant Manchester United. And so I just gambled. I just turned around to him and I said, how was the match the other day?
And I had no idea if there'd been a match. Sure. And I had no, certainly no idea who would've won it. I literally don't think I've ever seen a soccer match from beginning to end of my life. But it was worth a shot, excuse the pound again. And it worked. And he sort of looked at me for a bit, sort of quite quizzically.
And he said, yeah, it was good. Actually, Ronaldo was playing really well. And then somebody else said, no, it's not Ronaldo, it says as a player. And within a few seconds, the whole attention had shifted for me to football. Mm-hmm. Soccer, British soccer. There was a healthy debate going on about who was the best player in Manchester United at that time.
And I'd been completely forgotten by the time I left that lift. But we were rescued, taken to the ground floor. I was exchanging my telephone number with the guy with the United badge. Mm-hmm. And that was another way in to Sure. Quite a senior person was in the party as it happened.
Jordan Harbinger: That's great. Hey, [00:53:00] I'll give you a call next, next time I'm about to get stabbed with a panga and you can rescue me.
Just, just
Julian Fisher: look, just look for the evidence of something else. There's um, a technique called Blue catting as well. It's slightly related. It's not quite, it's the idea that it, people say, I can, I bet I can make you think of a blue cat, and immediately you'll think of a blue cat and you can't stop thinking of a blue.
I'm effectively. I need the focus to be somewhere else. Oh, interesting. So I was doing a version of BlueCat by saying, I'm gonna invite you all now to expend your mental talking about something, which I knew, to be fair, I knew enough about Africa to know that soccer is incredibly popular and Manchester and United was by far and away the most successful and popular team on that continent.
Jordan Harbinger: I feel like I've done this by accident. I Haven had a police experience when I was in former Yugoslavia and they were very upset with me. Oh yes. And I've told the story on the show before, so I'll skip the details. But basically they were figuring out when and how they were gonna beat me up. Mm-hmm.[00:54:00]
Basically. Mm-hmm. I started talking about food and different kinds of drinks and it shifted from them figuring out which, how many holes to put in me, I'm sure to this place does not have the best burgers. You guys don't know what you're talking about. They weren't burgers. But this place and the, the drinks over here are good, but the drinks over that I make in my bathtub or whatever, or even better, and this stuff is too commercial.
And I remember my friend was getting his ass kicked in the next room and I thought, man, he should have talked about leski because he might be going differently. So that's the blue catting thing, right? I mean it's basically it. It's a version of took the energy away from the redirected the conversation
Julian Fisher: in a conflict situation, which is what this is.
Your mind is geared.
Far be it for me to promote smoking on your show. But one thing I did use to do when I was traveling frequently in Africa was carry a packet of cigarettes because even if I wasn't smoking myself, if you do get into a [00:55:00] conflict situation, the first thing you do is offer somebody sure something. Does a couple of things.
First of all, it keeps their hands busy, keeps, keeps their hands busy. They get less stabby when they're smoking and creates a sense of obligation that human sense of reciprocity. You've given me something so I owe you something is very strong. Sure. So if the thing that you owe me is to not stab me, right?
Yeah. That'll be a good start. Thanks.
Jordan Harbinger: Yeah. Yeah. I'll take that trade. No kidding. In the book, you go over different types of cover, which I thought was really interesting. There's differences between saying what you were really doing in Africa, which resulted in people saying that you were a spy, and then just leaving it at this sort of boring, I'm a consultant, and then everybody's praying.
You don't say anything else about your job point, hang on. But I thought the note that overlapped with the undercover cops and undercover law enforcement that I have on the show is keep it close. Keep your cover story close to the truth. Ensure plausibility. So if you're shy, you don't say that you're a performer and make it about something that you know about.
This guy I ran into on an airplane a while ago. He was an older guy. He told me [00:56:00] about how he got recruited by the CIA probably, I guess it must have been in the eighties. And he was like, I don't get it. I work for Ford in Indonesia. He was like the head of Ford in Indonesia. Right. That they were put cover.
That's what we need because no one's gonna go, you're CIA because you are so well known in the business community in Indonesia and you're going and having dinner at the President's house. 'cause you're the head of Ford in Indonesia. Yeah. Whatever it was. And so that was actually perfect. He told me this on the airplane and he goes, I didn't know anything about being a spy.
And they said, that's good. We don't want you to act like a spy. We want you to act like the head of Ford in Indonesia and just tell us information that you get from the people that you go to parties with. Basically,
Julian Fisher: the best cover sometimes is being yourself.
Jordan Harbinger: Yeah, your authenticity bit is surprising is
Julian Fisher: what draws me back to if you are a spy and you're, you're in a, a difficult place, you don't wanna be advertising the fact that you're so, just present yourself as something bland, odine boring.
The more boring, the better. Just don't draw attention to yourself. That's defensive cover. Much more interesting I think for your, well, I mean some people will be very [00:57:00] interested in that, but others will be more interested in what I call offensive cover, which isn't quai militaristic, so forgive the term, but I can't really think of a better one.
What I mean by offensive cover is the way in which you present yourself to make yourself interesting to another person. How do you come across to draw another person to you? And that doesn't necessarily mean you have to pretend to be something you are not. Or tend to know something that you don't, and the more that you understand the thing you are presenting as the better, obviously, because authenticity shines through every single time.
Jordan Harbinger: So it seems like a good offensive cover would be, let's say that you're a Russian hockey player living in the United States. You spent most of your adult life here in the NHL playing for the Detroit Red Wings. They send you back to Russia. You are hanging out with Vladimir Putin. That's good offensive, right?
You're celebrity, you're well known. Yeah. You're not lying about being a, a hockey player, but if you
Julian Fisher: genuinely are,
Jordan Harbinger: you're genuinely a ho professional hockey player. Yeah. But then like, hey, when you go to Putin's Palace, we'd love to know about the security measures that they've got over there.
Julian Fisher: I think one really [00:58:00] powerful potential cover is recruitment consultant.
Like for jobs, essentially. Yeah. Because a professional recruiter. A professional recruiter, because that gives you an opportunity to go. You don't, first of all, you don't have to be expert in anything if you think about it. That's true. All right,
Jordan Harbinger: I got that going for
Julian Fisher: me. Second, uh, you've got a good excuse to talk to lots of people.
Because of course the, the first thing you come up against whenever you are trying to build a relationship, which is ultimately aimed at getting somebody to give you something that they don't necessarily wanna share with you is why are you asking me this question?
Jordan Harbinger: Oh, I use this all the time. I ask people these deep personal questions and I go, Hey, no obligation to respond, but I'm a journalist covering this for a podcast.
And they go, fine. Off the record. They'll tell me, do you know all kinds of personal things.
Julian Fisher: Absolutely. No, journalism is a difficult one for the agencies to use because it's checkable obviously. Right.
Jordan Harbinger: Unless you're a a BS journalist like me. Right. You can check it all you want. I actually do have a podcast, well quite believe it or not, but
Julian Fisher: again, there we go back.
That comes back, back round to if you can have somebody working with you who's genuinely doing the thing that they do. Mm-hmm. Which gives them the opportunity to go [00:59:00] and ask the questions. Brilliant. Actually being around here, put me in mind of something. A few years back we were filming spies and we filmed down in Square.
Mm-hmm. Which is just by some pancreas and Kings Cross. I was with the production crew and they were scouting around for locations and going in and telling somebody at a reception, Hey, I'm a production assistant. Scouting for a location opens a lot of doors. Yeah, yeah, sure. You, I'm just putting it out there for anybody who might be interested.
Exactly. Oh my gosh. It's, it's one of those things where people are like, oh wow, seriously, I might be on tv, so, oh gosh, come on in.
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And I went back there after living in Hollywood for a while and I met this guy who was a location scout and he told me all about how his job worked and I thought it was really fascinating. Yeah. And then when I went back to New York, I remember thinking I always wanted to check out all these roof decks.
So I started to just go into the where the doorman is and go, Hey, I'm location scouting something for Paramount. Can I check out the roof deck? You can obviously escort me. I just wanna go up there, take maybe a couple of photos. And they were like, lemme call the manager. And the building manager was like, somebody from Hollywood wants to see the private roof deck.
Absolutely. So I would just would go up there, I'd bring girls up there and I'd be like, watch this. You know, we're gonna go up to the roof deck. It's great.
Julian Fisher: There you go. See you. You're instinctively thinking like a spy.
Jordan Harbinger: It was awesome. There are some very nice private roof decks I bet, in Manhattan. And you're just thinking, man, this is wasted on the person who actually has access to this thing.
Some
Julian Fisher: hedge fund manager who never uses
Jordan Harbinger: it. Yeah. Hedge fund manager who never uses it, or it's a common area for a company, but nobody works in the office in that location. Or they never go [01:04:00] up there because they just smoke up there and then, or they ban smoking up there. So everybody just goes downstairs now and it's like, man, such waste.
This is really, really nice. Yeah, it's really incredible. It has a full view, panoramic views, statue of Liberty, and you're just thinking like there's nobody up here. It's incredible, isn't it? Yeah. Or they only go up there for lunch, they never go up there any other time. So you go up there in the afternoon or in the evening, it's just
Julian Fisher: amazing situational awareness.
I mean, situational awareness is great for all of us. 'cause it's equivalent to mindfulness, isn't it? Just take a little bit of time to appreciate what you've got guys. Just, you know, get out there and if you've got access to one of those roof decks, go and enjoy it and just drop into yourself for five minutes.
And enjoy the fact that you are where you are. But I have to say on that note about location scout, that is a job in another life. That's the one I want to do. Yeah. I think it must be so, so interesting. So interesting.
Jordan Harbinger: You probably go to some of the same places that you went to as a security consultant. I, I wouldn't be at all surprised.
Yeah. Tell me about your trip to Congo. That was a location scouting experience going around.
Julian Fisher: Yes. So this one there, there we do get into consulting, uh, as a very useful cover because, uh, on that [01:05:00] occasion I was working for a mining company that had interest in the east of the Congo. And at that time the had been a war with Zimbabwe, Uganda, Rwanda, Burundi, and had been incredibly bloody.
It was so deadly that it was known as Africa's third World War and it affected primarily the east of the country where there's a lot of minerals. And I had a client who wanted to understand, as the war had come to apparently a close 'cause, uh, a peace deal had been signed. They wanted to know is it possible to go back in?
Can we commence our operations there? And they asked me to go in and find out for them, which was the sort of thing which I used to really enjoy doing. Now I think about it, I'm like, what on earth was I thinking of? Mm-hmm. But uh, you know, but back then I was younger and, uh, I jumped on a plane and ended up of all places in.
And now the Democratic Republic of Congo is one of the biggest countries, I think, if not geographically, the biggest country in Africa. And it basically occupies that central chunk and it [01:06:00] width is about two thirds of the width of the entire continent. I was meant to be looking at what was going on in the east on the border with, um, Ruanda in Uganda, but I've flown to Kinso, which is all the way on the other side of the continent on the West coast.
And the reason I'd done that is because I knew a chap there who was a former military leader, who was by that point being appointed to the transitional national assembly, which was their sort of sort of transitional parliament as a implementing the ceasefire deal. And Patrice had agreed to meet me in Kinshasa and he would help me to make contacts and make an assessment of the situation on the ground, ground trees.
Mm-hmm.
Jordan Harbinger: Essentially. Mm-hmm.
Julian Fisher: So I'd flown into Kinshasa and the night before I had gone through Johannesburg and I'd stayed in a place in Santon. Santon is a really at market part of Johannesburg, five star hotels and all the rest of it. And I got chat into a chap, let's call him Paul. His job was head of African government engagement for a [01:07:00] really well known consulting firm.
The following day, having arrived in alsa, I went to go and find my friend Patrice at the Pal Deur, which was where.
Only to find at the appointed time. I discovered the place was absolutely deserted. Literally nobody there at all. So I, and, and weirdly, I was able to get into the building. The doors were open. I walked in, wandered around these deserted corridors, knocked on a few doors, couldn't find anybody, literally nobody there at all.
I thought, what's come wrong here? This is really very strange. So I got on my phone and, uh, I was trying to call Patrice. It was a really bad reception. Mobile telephony back in those days wasn't that good. Anyway, when I was in the middle of, I had my head down as I was pushing my way out the door, and I suddenly felt this slap to my hand and I had the phone hit the ground and skidding across.
I looked up and I was looking right into the barrel of an AK 47 mm. And I was surrounded by soldiers who were [01:08:00] acting as police security guards for the pal de pub, who obviously hadn't done a very good job because I just, yeah, yeah. They were, they were round the back or something, gambling and, uh, around the side of the building.
Exactly. So sinking the odd beer or whatever. But they were quite angry, obviously, and they wanted to know what I was doing there. And I said, I would phone Patrice and get you to talk to him, but my phone's broken. And, um, they weren't having any of it. Their position was that I was in the wrong place, the wrong time.
The word spy came up. 'cause it always does, you know, they were demanding that I explain what I'm doing here. I work for an international consulting company and um, we've been taken on by your president because he wants to understand better the terms and conditions and salaries for the army because he's looking at how he can improve them as the ceasefire deal is implemented.
I see. So I was immediately just reaching for something I knew that they would be interested in. Of course, you're your
Jordan Harbinger: president about giving you guys a raise basically. Exactly,
Julian Fisher: yeah. But of course there was a certain amount of succession, uhhuh, can you prove who you say you are? How do we know you're telling the truth?
So I [01:09:00] said, well, if I could just lower my hands, and I reached into my top pocket and I pulled out business card and I had for the guy you met at
Jordan Harbinger: the bar the night before. Exactly. Oh my goodness. Speaking, my
Julian Fisher: name is right. And that was enough. I like to say that's a clever cover story. Sure. I lied. I just made up a lie.
Right, right there and then because it was the easiest way, I couldn't say, look, I'm here to work out what's going on in the, in your war zone in the east of the country. You know, because that's probably gonna fuel your suspicion that Exactly. But it turned out that unit had previously been in the east of the country and we got chatting and I had my pack of cigarettes and I doled those out and we sat down and we got chatting and we spoke for about two hours, partly about terms and conditions and salaries, but also partly about conditions in the.
So they went a long way towards telling me everything that I needed to know without me actually ever having to set foot in that war
Jordan Harbinger: zone. But even though you avoided the war zone, you still almost got shot. So there's a special knack there. That's right. Because you have, you do, you have talent building rapport is obviously this, well, you got lucky a few times, but it's a skill that you have.[01:10:00]
This story of Maria at the bar in Rappongi illustrates it pretty well also. And I'd love to get that one outta you.
Julian Fisher: Oh, so this was, um, well I was in a professional context, but I wasn't trying to conduct elicitation for intelligence reasons. I was working at that time as a Japanese bank stop bricks, in fact.
And I'd gone to Tokyo where I was basically schmoozing some clients and the clients decided to take me to Rappongi. Now, Rappongi is effectively the Red Light district of Tokyo.
Jordan Harbinger: Isn't the US
Julian Fisher: embassy there? I don't think It's very far away, actually. That's right. Yeah. I wonder why. Yeah. Well, which one came first?
Cover? Yeah. Yeah. Which one was there first? I dunno. So there's lots of people sneaking about for all sorts of different reasons. Right. Actually, to be fair, there was no sneaky about going to this topless bar. The whole idea was they just, you know, they've absolutely bald face. Let's go and sit in a bar and watch women take their clothes off.
Yeah. Which is basically what it's all about while drinking exorbitantly priced cocktails. [01:11:00] Sure. Now, in the course of this, it became clear that if somebody was prepared to pay for it, you. And I was quite young in my twenties, and I, and I've never liked this sort of thing anyway, but frankly I was a bit terrified.
I was like, you know, this is like, it's Sez, it's sez. But I was risk clients and they got a wa of ya out and they're like, okay, we are gonna pay for you to go and have a private dance. And this woman Maria in was allocated to me and we went, it was a corridor on down, on each side. It just had little cubicles, which you had a do mask curtain across.
And there was a seat in there and, and a mat in front. And it was just like, this whole thing is just, and an ashtray, right? I mean the, the whole set and no hand sanitizer, can you believe it? Nothing. Nothing exactly. Pre COVID obviously. Yeah. Really just quite horrible. And so I sat there and Maria sort of pushed me into this little stool and then she started taking her clothes off my like, please don't do that.
I really don't want you to do that. And initially she was [01:12:00] really upset. She was like, don't you find me attractive? You know? And.
That was enough. So I said, but she said, well, okay, but we've got 10 minutes. What do we do? I said, well just sit and talk to me. So she sat down on this sort of tiny little stool together and we shared a cigarette. So we got chatting, and very quickly it became clear that she didn't want to talk about her background at all.
She was extremely jumpy about it until I told her about some personal matters in my own background, some of which we touched on today, and my sharing of vulnerability with her gave her the confidence to open up to me. And over the course of several other private dancers that night, she told me her story and it was truly horrific.
Ultimately, her home country, the country where she had nationality was the Netherlands, but she'd been trafficked. There's no two ways about it. She was tricked into coming into Tokyo, offered job modeling jobs and all the rest of it. Sure. As I say in the book [01:13:00] cover can be used for criminal lens as well.
She'd ended up working in the Red Light District in Amsterdam as a result of experimentation with drugs. And somebody came along and said, look, I'm a talent scout looking for models, and we're gonna fly you to Tokyo and we're gonna do a full shoot, and you're gonna be, you're gonna be famous. And of course, actually, all I would intend to do was to traffick her and she became essentially a, a sex slave.
I began to understand why she didn't want to tell me the story. Mm-hmm. Initially, and my concern was, I've gotta do something to help you put yourself in my shoes for the moment. By, by sort of session number three or four, I was thinking, I have a moral duty to try to help this person. Sure. But of course, she had bodyguards in a, well, they're watching her, so she, they're always watching her do or say anything.
Yeah. But right at the end, as we were coming out, it was five o'clock in the morning or something ridiculous like that. She was outstanding in the vestibule with this man who I took to be her mind a nasty piece of work. So I reached into my pocket and pulled out every denomination of currencies that I had.
And, you know, some dollars, there was some [01:14:00] sterling, there was some yen. And I, I went over to her and I pressed it into her hand as a tip and as I did, so I leaned over and I said, will you just tell me your real name? And she did. She whispered her real name back to me because in that split second, almost like she didn't have a choice, I could see she was startled by the idea.
And obviously concerned that she was gonna be overseen, but her bodyguard was, or mind, I was too busy sort pretending not to notice the exchange of cash, which was probably gonna extort from her shortly afterwards anyway, and with that, I was able to go to her embassy and say, look, you know, I've got the name of somebody who I understand has been trafficked from your country.
This is where she works, this is what her name is, and I you've.
Are able to get that sort of information out to somebody like Right. They said, well, are you a social worker? That's the most productive lapan
Jordan Harbinger: I've ever heard of. Yeah. My god, you got a lot done.
Julian Fisher: And uh, and then he said, um, as I turned to go, he just said, maybe [01:15:00] you should be a spy.
Jordan Harbinger: Yeah. Foreshadowing. Wow.
That story hits close to home for reasons that I, I wouldn't necessarily wanna share on the show, but it reminds me of, uh, one of my other favorite episodes folks. Daniel Levin. I don't have the episode number handy. Daniel Levin. L-E-V-I-N. It's also about trafficking. He wrote a book about his very interesting.
Julian Fisher: It's, yes, I haven't read it, but I will, I will make a point of that now actually. Oh yeah. You'll love it. I mean, super interesting. It's, um, I think it's not discussed enough that's trafficking. Yeah. I do it. It's so prevalent and it affects so many countries where we just turn a blind eye there. Certain things which are, so we say a little bit politically contentious.
Mm-hmm. To recover. And human slavery. And I think it really, we've got to be more honest with ourselves about this. What happened to Maria? I dunno, you dunno, it's a short answer. There was no way they were going to tell me the upshot of that. I had like to think that they were able to make contact with her one way or another.
I was in two minds about whether it was worth talking to them because sometimes you put somebody's life in danger by trying to help them. I thought initially about just [01:16:00] gonna the police and I thought that's if you're gonna put somebody's life in danger, that's probably the way to do it. I thought if I talk to the diplomatic service, her country's diplomatic service, they would have a better set of protocols for how to handle it,
Jordan Harbinger: right?
Yeah. They're high level police liaison will go to a high level police officer, not one that's gonna run to the Yakuza boss who runs that club and absolutely rat her out. Yeah. So
Julian Fisher: I mean I, I think it's right that, I dunno what happened to her and I wouldn't have asked because she deserves her privacy still.
Obviously
Jordan Harbinger: indeed. Yeah. Tell me about this Hungarian border guard. I love the way you Im on handled this one. Yeah. M on.
Julian Fisher: Yes.
Jordan Harbinger: So there again, actually I was really young. We're old enough now. We don't have to talk our way through borders anymore, man. That's true. That's part of the, part of the reason you, I, I missed days, you know, it
Julian Fisher: was fun.
I think every young person needs to go through an experience of a hairy borderer moment or two.
Jordan Harbinger: Yeah, I agree. It's a rite of passage. So it is a rite of passage. A little harder these days with the fall of communism. You know? You wouldn't wanna do that in North
Julian Fisher: Korea, for example. Exactly. And fairly was in the European Union.
Yeah. Borders were all open anyway, but if they, and, and that [01:17:00] would include it up to Hungary, which is where I was traveling to and from shortly after the fall of the Berlin, I was part of an initiative from University Oxford to build relationships with young people who were experiencing. Capitalism capital or free markets for the first time.
And, uh, that included Hungary and I was, I went to Budapest, but I couldn't afford, no, this was the first time I ever traveled abroad having not had a, a particularly wealthy upbringing, to put it politely. Mm-hmm. We didn't have overseas holidays, and so the first time I ever managed to go abroad was to go to Hungary on this sort of exchange, if you like.
I had to travel by train because it was too expensive to go by plane. This was pre easy jet days. And also Budapest was not exactly a destination high on the, no, uh, the stag do list back True. Back then it was the, the bachelor party list back then. Should have been though. It should have been. I mean, it's, it's, it's
Jordan Harbinger: got a lot going through Budapest in the nineties was something else.
Man. The whole eastern block of the nineties was something else. It was, it
Julian Fisher: exploded, didn't it? Yeah. But I was going there [01:18:00] almost immediately after the, the war fell and it was, things were still very fragile. Mm-hmm. They were still very fractious and febrile. Cut. Long story short, because it was the first time I'd ever been abroad, I didn't realize it had sign your passport, so I hadn't signed my passport.
On the way in, when we traveled across the border on the way in, I'd been slightly startled by the border guard coming in to check my passport and sort of confronted, opened the door to the compartment where I was sleeping, start naked. And he was so taken about by this hanging out. He um, he neglected to stamp me in.
Ah,
Jordan Harbinger: he didn't wanna spend any more time with you than it absolutely necessary. Exactly. Yeah.
Julian Fisher: Now all of this meant that when I was coming back out and I had very little money with me by the end of this, so a few foreigns really, and you know, sort of 20 pounds in Sterling, something like that. When I was coming back out and they came to check out passports, this young man who could speak pretty good English, Amon.
Basically looked at my passport. He says, okay, this is irregular. There's no signature and there's no entry stamp. It was a brand new passport, nothing [01:19:00] in it. Mm-hmm. So he put it in his pocket and he said, right, we're gonna have to get you off the train and deal with this. Heart sinks. Obviously this was before the days of knowing really how to deal with demands for bribes.
I didn't really know what I was expecting, but eventually I got sat down in one of those classic sort of Eastern European rooms, bare walls and sort of bulbs swinging over you and there's bare bulbs, stak of view, full ashtray, all that stuff. You know, it was, it was, it was like the full on cliche of an interrogation room, which I suspect it just went, they just hung out when they didn't have anything to do between the three or four train.
It was the break room before you got there. Exactly
Jordan Harbinger: it. The break room before you got there. Now it's the interrogation.
Julian Fisher: I'm in the middle of this huge interrogation. Essentially, he just wanted way more money than I had. I never can tell if this is a false memory, but I remember him using the word infraction, which I just think was amazing.
In English. In English? Yeah. I mean, this guy was quite well educated. Yeah, that's the point. This is why I was able to get outta the situation, but I literally didn't have the money that he was asking for. So he was like, you know, whatever, it was [01:20:00] $50 for infraction number one $50 from fraction number two.
And I like, well, I've got like 17 equivalent. And I put it on the table in front of him and he's like, that's not good enough. And he said, I'm gonna have to report this to my superior. And I thought, I thought, okay, the train's gonna get, it's gonna get more expensive too. Absolutely. And then they might actually take me to court and I might actually have to defend my infractions minor as they were.
But whatever else happened, I was gonna miss the train. So I just instinctively grabbed for the, the thing that connected us, which was shared language. Mm-hmm. And he was able to speak English. And I said, look, I want you to help me here. I'm stuck. I'm in a horrible position. I'm a young man like you. I've got very little money.
You can have it if you want, but just let me get back on that train. 'cause if I've stuck here, then I don't have anywhere to go. I haven't got a credit card, I've got no way of getting money. I don't know anybody here. I'm throwing myself on your mercy. And you know, and he's like, I can't help you. I'm not senior enough, basically.
And I said, well, I bet that's where you're wrong. I bet you are. You know, look at you. You speak pretty much fluent English. You're well educated. You should be an Oxford [01:21:00] University with me, not on a border post like this. Of course you've got the influence to do something about this. Everything changed. He got up and said, okay, let me see what I can go and sort out.
Mm-hmm. With my superior. He stepped outside for a bit, probably for as long as it took him to get my passport out of his pockets. Mm-hmm. And then came back and he is like, yeah, it's all right. I've sorted this out for you. You're right. I was able to say the right things. I've got this done. And he pushed it over and pushed money back to me.
And that was a really important lesson to me there, that this was somebody who was looking for recognition. He was probably overeducated for his position. He'd probably been promised the Earth was the end of the Cold War, and he was still stuck in some God forsaken border office, middle of nowhere getting drunk to get through it and shaking down poor unsuspecting backpackers or whatever.
Librarians. Yeah. And on this occasion, he met somebody who just almost outta desperation, just appealed to his sense of self-importance because I was like, I'm sure you can help me. I'm sure you've got more influence than you think you've got. And at that point, it was almost like the challenge [01:22:00] was, okay, I have to show that that's right.
That this person's confidence in me is justified.
Jordan Harbinger: I love this. There's so much in the book about validation, earning mind share, getting in the right mindset for a meeting, prosocial behavior, encouraging prosocial behavior. But I think a good little couple tricks I want to end with you recommend walking to important meetings.
I love this. This is such a good idea. And I find that when I can't do this, I really come in with a much more anxiety than if I'm able to walk even just a block.
Julian Fisher: Yes. I walked this afternoon.
Jordan Harbinger: That was why you're late. No. Well, that in this place is really hard to find. That's because I got the wrong place.
Yeah. You know, that's how good a spy I am. Yes. I I, I was joking about that when we were waiting for you. I was like, and this guy works for your intelligence service. It's, there's two doors. Come on, man.
Julian Fisher: But no, I had walked here. I, I got off the train at some pancreas. Mm-hmm. And yeah, it's a 20 minute walk and the sun's sort of shining as much as it shines in the bushes summer.
Yeah. But more important than that, it just gives you that moment to, the way I put it is when API's go into a meeting, they're conducting anti surveillance. They're getting rid [01:23:00] of the physical followers. They, or want to make sure that they're not being followed. Oh, I see. It's essentially making sure that they don't carry.
It maybe stretches the analogy a little too far, but I talk about mental anti surveillance, you know, because we bring with us all the stresses of the day, baggage, all the things, baggage that we're worried about all the baggage, especially with phones in our hands, you know? So as I could have come to this discussion with you two ways, couldn't I really, I could have had the concierge come and pick me up, in which case I would've probably have been reading emails, which would've been zinging in my mind as I sat down with you.
Or I could put my phone away, walk, which we know anyway. I mean, I'm no scientist, but I understand from psychologists does stimulate our creativity. I always find as I'm write, when I'm writing fiction, or even if I get stuck, go for a walk, and the answer sort of presents itself. So we all know from experience that walking clears the mind, stimulates creativity.
To me, it's like you're doing a form of mental anti. Mm-hmm. You're getting rid [01:24:00] of those mental emotion. That might otherwise mar the first 10 minutes of an interaction, and sometimes that first 10 minutes is really important.
Jordan Harbinger: I love the, uh, idea of walking to a meeting. I do this before shows too. I'll even go for a walk if I have a show in my own house.
I'll go for a walk around the block before I jump into my show. Or I'll go out in my gym and do something really quick. I have to have some sort of reset, mental reset. Sometimes it's a shower and sometimes it's a walk. Yeah. It depends on the circumstances, but I love that. I never thought about, I used to think of it as just a ritual, but you're right, it does get rid of a lot of the baggage.
Don't have the emails in my head. I'm not just getting off of a call or something like that. Right. I've got music in my ears. Maybe something like that at the, at the mouse and, and you
Julian Fisher: and your circulations up. You are feeding your brain. But I would add while on that walk, just also practice a bit of mindfulness.
You know, be aware of where you are. You're gonna take notice of where you are. Just enjoy the fact that you know, you're walking past a particular bar or a particular park. I tried to notice something, even if I'm walking a familiar route. I just tried to notice one new thing on that walk
Jordan Harbinger: By the [01:25:00] way, before we hit cut here, do spies still use dead drops in meetings now that there are encrypted messaging apps and stuff like that?
Right. This is one of my favorite subjects. Is it, I've always wondered this 'cause it's like, why do I need to meet you and then risk getting executed when I can send you a message on the internet?
Julian Fisher: So I, I talk about human intelligence and the age of artificial intelligence. The challenges of artificial intelligence are first of.
Also technically as good as we are, our enemies must be expected to be equally good, if not better. So actually, while it feels like you can encrypt something and it's gonna be a hundred percent safe, you can never take that for granted. And so in many ways, you need to go back to first principles, what they call Moscow rules, because my biggest secrets personally or professionally, I just don't commit to the digital.
I literally write down. So it's [01:26:00] in my head what's on a piece of paper and states do that as well. So that's why human intelligence recruitments become much more important because however good your intercept of state communication is, we don't really know what Putin's planning to do. For instance, we don't know what Chinese states plans to do.
For example, example with regard to Taiwan, because the really important things, they're just not gonna broadcast because they know that intercept is a vulnerability. So actually those human intelligence capabilities, the recruitment of humans who can get to the information you want becomes much more important.
And in fact, those very stone age versions of remote communication, dead letter drops, brush contacts, may well be making a renaissance.
Jordan Harbinger: Yeah, I never would've thought of that. I suppose that makes complete sense. You think, oh, like, well, it's encrypted on my phone, but somebody's come up with a way to read the screen on a phone through a wall, and we just don't know about it.
Or, or, you know, there's a Mossad guy listening to this, nodding right now and going, of course we put Pegasus on the phone. I want you to send [01:27:00] something through your encrypted app because we're reading what's being displayed on the screen using this vulnerability or whatever.
Julian Fisher: Or you have a meeting in a park and um, and we've got lit readers at work.
Right. You know, there's, there's, there's all kinds of, there's so many different ways that we just, we don't think about it. We, it, it feels like you can engage in secure ways, but as you think it through. You start to realize just how incredibly difficult that is. And some of those age old techniques are valuable for precisely that reason because they were developed to be foolproof and in many ways they still are foolproof.
Jordan Harbinger: Yeah. So the best cover is a newspaper with eye holes cut into it. Mm-hmm. And you're talking behind it, right. So nobody can see it. Oh, go. That's what we said earlier. Best
Julian Fisher: cover is somebody who's doing the job that they actually do.
Jordan Harbinger: So you just go to a meeting with everybody watching to the office of Ford in Indonesia, and you're an auto supplier and you're talking with somebody else in the whatever it is that call being hidden in plain sight.
Hidden in plain sight. Exactly. You know, in the digital age, a lot of people think that they can replace in-person contact and relationships with digital ones, and I really don't believe that to be the [01:28:00] case. I think one of the biggest challenges that intelligence agencies are gonna have is a whole generation that comes up thinking that you can befriend someone online.
And it's the same thing as having real rapport in person, and that's gonna be a big challenge for trust building and things like that. I think in the future,
Julian Fisher: it's not just the intelligence agents. I think it's a challenge for every employer everywhere that's, uh, young people today don't understand the value of building personal relationships or, I, I say that, but on one or two occasions I've been very favorably impressed when I've spoken at universities or schools recently.
There seems to be a bit of a move, a bit of a backlash. And I would say now, Jordan, that if I go and talk to a group of middle-aged executives. They're more likely to be the ones playing on their phones and checking their emails than if I'm talking to a group of 16 and 17 year olds
Jordan Harbinger: because they know that it's dangerous.
Us middle-aged guys are the ones we think we've got it under control. Yeah, it seems that way.
Julian Fisher: I think there's some hope. I'm not gonna write them off. Yeah. I don't think there's any generational write-off going on. That's
Jordan Harbinger: phenomenal. That's great news. Even if those skills may be becoming more rare, I have no data for that.
I would love to see a [01:29:00] backlash against the technological stuff that my generation fell into. I think
Julian Fisher: it's there.
Jordan Harbinger: Yeah.
Julian Fisher: I really do.
Jordan Harbinger: Excellent. Julian Fish, thank you so much for coming into, well, they're not my studio but studios here in London to do this. It's been an absolute
Julian Fisher: pleasure. I've really enjoyed talking to you, Jordan.
Likewise. Thanks so much for inviting me along.
Jordan Harbinger: You are about to hear a preview of the Jordan Harbinger show with an undercover a TF agent that infiltrated the infamous pagans biker gang.
JHS Clip: Everyone was saying, Hey, motorcycle enthusiasts, bikers are all bad. So they did this whole study and basically had a study.
It came back and said, Hey, listen, 99% of 'em aren't, you know, 1% of these bikers might be problematic or gang members or what have you, but the rest aren't. Well, then the bikers, the real bikers, the outlaw bikers we're like, Hey, this is great. We are the 1%. We're proud of being the 1%. I mean, you know, people think these are just a bunch of morons running around partying, and they're not.
They're very sophisticated in how they move their money. They're very sophisticated in their structure, and they're also very sophisticated in what they do. People are always like, oh, whatever made you decide to do a two year undercover. [01:30:00] Listen, I didn't sign up for a two year undercover deal. That's just what it turned into.
Very few of these run for two years. You're always kind of just seeing how it's going to play out, and that's where, you know, some of this. Dumb luck comes into it. They assigned me to this hit squad inside the gang. Most of the gang members don't even know that this group exists, and it's selected by Mother Club members of what they consider to be their heavy hitters.
You know, the ones that can do the real down dirty work. And so Hellboy, he had approached me, he's like, Hey, they want you to be a part of this. We were gonna be targeting Hell's Angels and we were gonna be killing them. You have to be very quick in thinking the reason why to go undercover is from the outside you can deal with, you know, maybe some low level members.
You're never getting anywhere near the leadership. The only way to do that is to go undercover in the club and go up into the ranks. I would've failed if I didn't have some dumb luck on my side, and I had plenty of dumb luck throughout this case.
Jordan Harbinger: To hear how Ken Cro spent two years risking his life [01:31:00] going through initiation in one of the most ruthless biker gangs in the world.
Check out episode 6 73 of the Jordan Harbinger Show. I always love the spy stuff. I always love the practical stuff. One of my weapons that I use all the time is asking for advice. When you ask somebody for advice, even if they don't like you, they find an affinity for you. This is called the Benjamin Franklin Effect, and there's a famous story where he borrows a book from somebody that doesn't like him and they become fast friends.
As a result, I actually ask for advice all the time from a lot of different people, even if I am quite sure about the course of action that I'm gonna take already. And a lot of my friendships, I would say, especially with a lot of the high level people that you hear on the show or that you know that I'm friends with through various stories they tell on the show.
Those come from me asking that person advice and then ending up going out to lunch with them and asking 'em for more advice. You think you're taking from them, and if you do this right, actually they feel great giving the advice and they feel attached to your outcome, which is a really good place to be after the show.
We also discussed a little bit about deception detection. Jillian told me that people [01:32:00] who are too precise with things such as, I left at 7:32 AM instead of seven 30. That's a little bit of a tell. I wanted to get into more detail about that. Maybe next time if we have 'em on the show, we can discuss why that is.
Also asking someone to recall a detail from a story out of order. So they tell you the whole story and then you say, wait, what happened before you went to the pub again? What did you say before the speech began? They'll have a delay because they have to replay the entire lie, the entire story in their head.
A true recounting would be quicker. I, I'm having a hard time wrapping my mind around this. I don't know. I'd have to test this out and see, because I feel like if you asked me what happened before something else, even in a true scenario, it might take me, I'd have to replay the thing in my head as well. So I'm not sure if that actually is ironclad.
Somebody tell me if you've tested this and let me know. Last but not least, he did let me know that detecting deception is an art, not a science. Most of the stuff you see on YouTube is not used by spies, not used by any intelligence agency, not used by law enforcement, because it's actually just bullshit.
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